I was a final year Law student who attended several days when the Accused was on trial, including the day he was found guilty.

I also have a teenager. I also threw out a man so terribly much like the ‘accused’ who I discovered was making sexual advances to my child.

I’ve also lost a child through other circumstances. Sonya, as unbelievable as this sounds now, you will be happy again. You’ll always remember but there wont be the same pain.

As an honours psychology student, I remember learning that healing comes through the changes that occur in your life after the tragedy. So try to make some changes – even if its just moving the furniture in your house around (which is what I did). Enrol in a course of study where you will meet new people.

If someone reads this and knows how to contact Sonya Ryan, could you please pass this on.

With much love

Helen